Women Want a Challenge, Women Need a Challenge...and Those Flowers Can be Laid on Your Relationship's Grave

I will try to keep this short and sweet, but like the mighty Colorado River, these thoughts must flow. Men, yes men, I'm looking at you! The time for putting away childish thoughts of romance has come, Hell, most of these interpretations by men come off creepy anyway. In my time-especially more recently- I have seen such desperation flow from the tongue's of those, who based on outward appearance alone, should be considered grown men. Desperation that fills the room(even via technological device), akin to the smell filling the vents of your vehicle when a skunk has met his demise down the roadway. I am not "hating" on you guys, I am simply bringing to light this point that is so glaringly obvious to everyone(ESPECIALLY WOMEN), that it could do battle with the sun for the rights to light the sky on a nice day in June.

Let me preface this real quick, it is not entirely your fault, kinda. You see, men have recently become so spineless in their fear of rejection by women, that they have come to follow a woman's lead on how to proceed when their heart's pitter-patter with desire. This is incorrect for several reasons, most importantly the fact that men and women are completely different in nearly every way possible. Since a women is brought up from a very young age to feel like she is a "princess," her standards for a partner in the relationship department are at an all time high. No matter how hard you try, you will probably never fit this bill, because it is impossible to be the impossible. Therefore, when you try your hardest to be what she says she wants, you fall extremely short of what she is biologically programmed to need.

Women are biologically programmed to seek out the best mate, not only for procreation purposes, but for protection. The term "nice guys finish last" and "women always go for the bad boy" come to mind. Ever wonder why? It's because these women cannot help but follow a confident, "Alpha" male's lead. They are programmed to think of him as a top catch, because in the most prehistoric section of their brain, he represents the key attributes for their ultimate survival as well as their offspring's success and survival.(very important back in the day.)

Now for my take, this all came about because of a new roommate I obtained of the opposite sex. I absolutely did not require, nor "want" a "roommate" but I am doing her a favor because she is in need of a place to stay. Enough said about that, though one detail that I have learned from this experience is how hard the guys chase her, how little I do, and who ultimately wins. You see, after my last failed relationship a few years ago, I adopted an attitude of "who cares" when it comes to women. I have never in my life been keen to chase women to begin with, but I do admit that in my past, once I had "landed" a woman, the pressure I put on the relationship itself to keep it steady/reliable was admittedly intense to say the least. What did this do? Everything negatively possible, though I thought it would do the opposite. Let me explain, you see I would buy flowers too often, say sweet things too often, cook dinner, clean her car, write poetry, run bubble baths, you get the idea, all the stupid shit that Disney would have you believe is what women want....WRONG! All that did was make me overly accessible, weak, and unmanly(Beta male) in her eyes. NOT THE CHALLENGE SHE NEEDED. *see title above*

By now I'm assuming that some of you out there are thinking, "What the eff is this dude talking about?" and I guess that's is fair, we don't technically know each other, and I might be some evil-doer trying to sabotage your relationship right? Wrong again Buckaroo! For proof, let's revisit the roommate situation. She is pretty, cool, funny, stylish, really smart (admittedly though, I just don't see her that way, but a great catch for anyone/everyone nonetheless)and has no less than 15 dudes a day on her Facebook/Instagram trying to hit her up with lovey-dovey nice guy BS. You know the, "WOW, your soo pretty, " to the "OMG... we should hang out sometime" all the way to the "please date me"(not even bullshitting, I laughed at that one) My point? whose bed do you think she is in whenever "I" want it? that's right! ding ding ding. The reason? because I no longer do all that pathetic shit I told you I used to do. She tells me about these guys, I laugh. She says they want her, I laugh harder. On the other side of the coin, simply because of their overtness in their approach, she will never want or see them that way either, get it?

 The great thing is, I really don't care. There are 7 billion people on the planet, roughly half women, do the math! See, I don't want to, nor do I, "own" anyone, people are free to do whatever the hell they want with their one and only life. The benefit of this outlook though, is that it makes me desirable, because not many people adopt this belief wholeheartedly... WINNING!!!

You see, men, pathetic "Beta" or not, have this innate feeling for some sort of control in their lives. From the career they want, to the car they drive, to the women they want or "need." *tear, tear* That is all fine and good, but when it comes to women, you have to fight that urge to control them. Let them go, let them do whatever they want, Hell, give them the freedom/option/chance/choice to cheat on you openly (they won't,) and they will come back each and every time. It's like Leo Dicaprio's character in the movie Catch Me If You Can. They are only going to run if you chase them. Most if not all women get off on the chase aspect, whether subliminally or not, because they confuse it with desirability, immature desirability. If you sit back with a "I don't give a shit attitude," this is completely foreign to them because they are used to being chased from as early as the playground days, and if you don't chase, this is unnatural to them, and they want to figure out why. THAT, is why the "jerks" get all the women, and the "nice guys" flog themselves to sleep at night, because they lost sight of who they were, followed the lead of emotional thinkers(women), and became something not valuable enough to keep or want. Now look, I'm not saying that this is the best way to go about each and every relationship(every one of them are different), but most could learn a lot from this attitude and viewpoint.

It is not enough to pretend to be the way I describe, you have to truly own it and be it. You have one life on this Earth that can end at anytime, be who you want to be, not something your not. Be happy, smile a lot, and never let anyone bring you down. You are responsible for your own happiness, and they are responsible for theirs. PEACE!!

One of my favorites....

Death before dishonor,
 means nothing to the cannon fodder
Battle of life, as bullets wiz by
And it's me you hide behind?
The difference between man and machine,
 is greed and green
And mean?
I've never shown you that word,
for fear of the unload
So to the top of the pyramid  I go,
while like the sacrificial Aztec's prisoner,
decapitated, lifeless
For you, its down the steps below
But Rest easy
For you already failed the test
Fuck it, no time for the wretched
Or more wasting of my thoughts or breath

Notes: decapitated = metaphoric for inability to use ones head. Take it easy now, no need for a hissy fit over wordage haha

I'm kinda over stupid violence but....

I just wanted to share my sweet ass poetry that I wrote in honor of a stupid fight video on youtube. Enjoy!

 Float like a butterfly,
 fall like a tree,
 why oh why,
 were his hands at his knees?
 Telegraphed that punch
 Like old lady church groups
 RSVP for lunch
 Funny though, the "ughhh" yell
 As overweight Rocky slowly fell

Branching out....

This blog was originally intended for a college class that I took in the fall of 2012, but now I am going to use this as my vehicle to express the things that intrigue, inspire, infuriate, and interest me in general. If you want to come along on this ride, then buckle up! Cause there is no telling where we will end up. :-)

PUT THE PHONE AWAY, POP THE TOP ON A COLD ONE

Distracted driving is more dangerous and causes more accidents than driving under the influence of alcohol.  While some may still be stuck on the public service announcements of yesteryear, touting drinking alcohol and driving as one of the most dangerous things a motorist can do, statistics are now showing that the safety to surrounding motorists is much more at risk due to distracted drivers. According to the website Straighttalklaw.com, when referring to the percentages of investigated causes of accidents between drinking and driving and distracted driving they state, “While you may think drunk driving is the leading cause of motor vehicle accidents, in reality 80% of accidents are caused by distracted drivers while only 33% are caused by drunk drivers.”

Recently many states have enacted laws to reduce these unfortunate numbers, though the reasons for these laws seem to not have trickled down to the people themselves yet. The straighttalklaw.com article also references a study by the National Safety Counsel, in which the counsel states, “28% of accidents are caused by drivers texting behind the wheel yet a large portion of the population considers texting safer and less harmful than driving intoxicated.”

The problem is that texting and driving does not have the have the negative connotation and stigma that drinking and driving does. In this day in age when our cell phones are our lifelines to the “outside” world, it doesn't seem that too many people are willing to give up their cell phones while operating a vehicle just yet. In May 2012, a staggering number was reported by the Orange County Register News in Orange County, California(a state in which using a cell phone while operating a motor vehicle in any way other than "hands free" became illegal on Jan 1, 2009) the report stated that according to a California Office of Traffic Safety survey, “10.8 percent of drivers on the road use cell phones at any given daylight time, up from 7.3 percent in 2011.”

The survey also stated that, “Drivers between 16 to 25 years old showed a dramatic rise in cell phone usage, doubling from 9 percent to 18 percent.” This Orange County Register News article also reported that, “Authorities issued more than 57,000 tickets statewide in April[2012] to drivers on hand-held cellphone use and texting violations.” this number was up from April 2011 where 52,000 citations were issued for the same violations.

 The reasons that states like California are so tenacious in their fight against the distracted drivers is in the numbers. According to a CNBC.com article, Car and Driver magazine did a test on the effects of distracted driving compared side by side with driving under the influence: “Driving 70 miles per hour on a deserted air strip Car and Driver editor Eddie Alterman was slower and slower reacting and braking when emailing and texting.

The results:

Unimpaired: .54 seconds to brake
Legally drunk: add 4 feet
Reading e-mail: add 36 feet
Sending a text: add 70 feet”

As these numbers show, distracted driving is much more dangerous than driving intoxicated. Unfortunately just the sound of receiving a similar type of sentence in a court of law for being caught texting and driving and being caught drinking and driving just doesn't sound or feel right to a normal person. Whether it sounds normal or not something more definitely needs to be done about the dangers of driving while distracted, until then hopefully word of mouth to our family, friends, and neighbors about the dangerous of distracted driving can curb the unneeded deaths of innocent people and destruction of valuable property that occur annually throughout the United States due to this growing epidemic.

My Area, My Responsibility

Confined, how long?
out the door
hackles up
what has changed here?
relief
I can now go back
what was that?

Last Turn Home

Eveyday, when that last turn is made
in my mind, old visions replay
will the old, blend with the new
the day to know, can't come too soon